How do you get back your ex? Do you really want to get back with your ex? How do you know if you should get back with your ex?
I'm pretty sure these are some of the questions going through your mind as you land on this page.
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However, before you do that, I'll advice that you read through this post first, to the end. Which will help you to determine if it's worth the efforts to try to reconnect with your ex.
Understandably, I could imagine what your feelings are right now! Because when someone you love so dearly has left you. You may immediately start thinking about how to get them back.
Most especially if you've spent memorable and fun-filled times with them in the past. Your desire will be to instantly re-create the good times you've had together in the past.
When you're in this emotional state to reconnect with your ex, there's every likelihood that you'll make a mistake. You won't be able to determine if “get back your ex” will be the right decision.
7 Things You Must Consider First…
In this post, I want to share with you 7 things you must consider before you take that bold step to get back your ex.
So that you don't regret your decision later should you go ahead to get back your ex without considering these factors that I'm about to share with you.
Now, before I do that, I want you to keep the following 3 basic questions at the back of your mind as you go through the rest of this page:
- Do you really want to get back with your ex?
- Is this the right time for you to try and make things work?
- Does your relationship with your ex determine a second chance?
If you really want to arrive at definite and sincere answers to the above questions and make an informed decision that you don't regret later. Then, you must let go of any sentiments and emotional attachment you might have with your ex. Use your brain not your heart!
Therefore, asking yourself these 7 questions will ensure that you're being reasonable and ready to make appropriate decision about your future in respect of your relationship.
With these, you'll be able to determine if your relationship with your ex deserves a second chance or not.
Was Your Relationship Abusive?
If you were in a relationship that was abusive in any way, then by all means, leave it alone and move on. You don’t need to be with someone like that.
Most people who have found themselves in abusive relationships try to justify the abuse and tried to make things work even when they are better off left it go.
Unfortunately, many never lived to tell the story as they became victims of abusive or toxic relationship.
It doesn’t matter whether it was physical or verbal, anyone who abused you should be left alone. Even if they walked out on you, let them go.
And don't be fooled into believing that it's only women that found themselves in abusive relationship. Men too, suffer from abusive relationship!
Why Do You Want To Get Back Your Ex?
You should always question your motives for wanting your ex back. Make sure that you are making the right decisions for the right reasons. Do you want your ex back for emotional, sexual or financial reasons? There are several reasons that you must take into consideration.
For instance, if you want to get back your ex because you are still in love with them, then this is a good decision. If you are trying to win back your ex as a way to take revenge on them then this is not a good motive.
For instance, there are people who try to get back their ex so that they can then leave them shortly thereafter. This is normally aimed at making the ex feel what they felt when they left them previously.
You shouldn’t also try and get back your ex just because you have heard that they have moved on and are now dating someone new. Jealousy is not a good motive to try and get someone you love back.
Are You Afraid Of Being Alone?
There are a number of people who can’t stand the thought of being alone. If you are such a person, you need to realize that this isn’t the right reason to try and get an ex back.
This shows signs of insecurity that are not good. Such can lead you to make wrong decisions such as being with the wrong person just because you don’t want to be on your own.
The first thing you need to do is to work on your insecurities and then establish your independence. Once you do this, then you will be able to establish whether or not you want your ex back for the right reasons.
Trying to get your ex back just because you don’t want to be alone isn’t wise.
Is Your Ex Dating Someone Else?
There are times when you just need to let go of an ex. If your ex has moved on, then let them be. Trying to meddle in his/her new relationship will not work out well for both of you in the long run.
More so, if your ex is now married, then trying to come between these unions is just wrong on so many levels. If your ex has moved on, then let him or her be.
Don’t try to get your ex back simply because you have heard that they have moved on.
Does Your Ex Deserve A Second Chance?
You have to be honest with yourself. Not all exes deserve a second chance; others are just better off left alone. You have to seriously sit down and think about this. If your ex has cheated on you, do you really want to take them back?
These are the things that you should consider. There are times when you are just much better off alone than being stuck in any relationship that's not rewarding.
Why Did You Break Up In The First Place?
You should never forget the reasons why you broke up in the first place. If these issues aren’t resolved then get back your ex might likely lead to another break again.
For instance, if you broke up because you were unhappy about how they treated you, you have to consider this. Do you really want to have a repeat of the same issues?
Are You Ready To Get Back Your Ex?
Sometimes exes need to spend time apart to re-evaluate their being together. If you broke up because you were constantly fighting, you need to take some time apart to first figure out whether or not you want to be together again.
Sometimes you should also take some time and work on your personal issues before trying to get your ex back.
For instance, if you had low self-esteem or any insecurity, work on building your confidence then you can try and win back your ex.
Finally, think about the reasons that made your relationship fail in the first place and see if they are amenable or not. Before you consider what you must do to make things work this time.
Once you have sincerely established that it is worthwhile to reconnect with your ex, then it is time to come up with a plan an put it into action.